This was given as a blessing……

Pregnancy should have been a celebration in my life. I dreamed, since being a little girl, of being a mother.   I could not wait to grow and become one.  Instead, here I was at the doctor’s office filled with fear and dread.  I was 24 years old, pregnant, and had been battling an eating disorder for ten years and using meth and cocaine for six months.  I did not have my own place to live.  I was adopted and both my birth mom, and biological sister, lost their kids due to drugs. I was not going to follow in their footsteps.  My son’s father wanted me to get an abortion and I almost did, but the doctor insisted I talk to the counselor at the clinic because after asking to see my child on the ultrasound machine I could not stop crying.  Keeping my child was the best choice I have been made in my entire life!

A friend who moved to Fond du Lac one year prior told me about New Beginnings and this seemed like my only hope. I packed up what I could and left Seattle Washington with nothing more than hope, determination, and a good attitude!  After learning of my acceptance into New Beginnings I began working with Kelly Rust who assisted me in getting into a program to finish my GED.  After six months with New Beginnings support and encouragement I passed my GED test.

At my 24 week ultrasound it was discovered that my son had a cleft lip and possible palate and they also had a suspicion of Down syndrome. I began needing to go to Milwaukee every month as the doctor tried to figure out how severe the cleft was.  Kelly Rust took me each time.  She held my hand as I had an amniocentesis. They said this was the only way to know for sure if he had Down syndrome.  As scared as I was to have this performed, I could not think of anyone else who could have been more comforting through this.  It was a blessing when we discovered he did not have Down syndrome, although I knew even if he did, I would have continued through the pregnancy and love him just the same.  I am so thankful to have the support of Kelly and all the other staff through accepting and learning how to care for my son with his cleft.

When I was 8 months pregnant I began working at an assisted living home as a caregiver. Being a caregiver has allowed me to use my natural gifts, which I now know are given to me from God. Three years later I now work as a Dementia specialist here in town with the elderly and love everyday of it. I firmly believe if I had not moved to New Beginnings I would not have taken this path in my life.

A few of the staff members at New Beginnings were supportive as I became a follower of Christ.  I was baptized while being pregnant, which was a life changing experience.  I was not pressured into becoming a Christian this was something I wanted, and was happy to find the support through NB in doing so. I now will be enrolling my son into a Christian day care where he also will be learning the word of God and becoming a strong follower of Jesus.  Again this faith is something I would not have without having moved to NB.

I made an unfortunate decision to give my son’s father a seconded chance and I moved back to Seattle Washington. I really thought I was making a good choice and although Kelly and staff knew better, I was so appreciative that no one tried to convince me not to go.  I was treated as an adult and was let to make my own choices.  After two weeks of being in Seattle cried myself to sleep as I realized my son’s father was in the garage smoking meth. Why did I leave? I had such a safe and wonderful life surrounded by many friends and blessings. NB accepted me back under the condition they gave me a week to get back to the house and two months to live there. I came back within the week with my son and everything I could pack, leaving most of my stuff at home and bringing what I needed for my son. The staff opened their arms when my son and I came back as if we had never left.  I was reoffered my job as a care giver and put my name immediately back on the housing list.

When I left New Beginnings this time my son and I had our very own apartment to move into and this was just one day before his cleft lip repair surgery.

I cannot imagine where or what I what I would be doing if I had not moved to New Beginnings Pregnancy Care Center.  I would not have a home, my growing faith, a career, education plans, or friends that actually care.  I do not believe my son would have been alive, or if he was alive I do not believe he would be in my care.  New Beginnings offered me and my son a real second chance at life. They were patient, caring, understanding, supportive, and kept me going. I still talk to Kelly Rust every day.  She has become a friend and a mentor.  I still find myself back at “home” often.   The rules that were put in place helped me learn to be an adult and a wonderful parent.  Because they taught me to cook, I now can cook healthy meals for me and my son.  They brought hope into my life, this is not something I was entitled to or earned. This was given as a blessing from so many blessed people.

Thank you to anyone who has donated time prayers or money to make this house possible to change not just my life but so many others as well. If you are reading this in hopes of moving in to New Beginnings for a seconded chance at life, I want to tell you YOU CAN DO THIS ! The staff is all on your side, and the friendships you can make will last a lifetime.  This home is a beautiful gift.  Make it Count!  The staff do actually love and care about you and your child.  And as a matter of fact the whole community does, because this is a community run home.  Thank you for taking time to read my story!

Tiffany

 

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